Take it easy, Let it go

Posted by iN tHe BlOg

How often we can really take things easy or let things go? When there's a problem that bothers you, it is not easy to let it go or even take it easy. It is often easy to say in this way " Take it easy" but the fact, it is not. Probably it is our mindset, we always hope things to be done in a perfect manner, the way we want. We become directly or indirectly forcing the way things going to be. We care too much, too preoccupied with all the gains and losses.

Imagine when you are worry and afraid of taking examination, you keep thinking about it, worry about it. All the sleepless nights, can't memorise anything. End up you did not do well in your examination. If just treat the examination like the usual worksheet that you will doing, it will be another scenario. When a couple are quarrelling, often both parties always tend to say hurtful things which they don't mean to. If both take it too hard, they might end up divorce cause both parties don't want to take a step out, let it go.

Once there was this old man who told me this story. Long time ago, there were a abbot and a junior monk who lived in the monastery. Every morning, they walked to the village for their food in the early morning. This morning was the same for their usual alms. As they walked along the downstream, they saw a lady groaning in pain. The abbot walked forward to find out what's wrong with the lady. She had sprained her leg as she was walking back after washing her clothes downstream. She asked the abbot if he could carry her back to the village. “Come on, girl,” said the abbot. Lifting her in his arms, he carried her. The junior monk did not speak again until that night when they back at the monastery. Then he no longer could restrain himself. “We monks don’t go near females,” he said. “Why did you do that?” “It is impossible to leave the lady there alone. It is dangerous. When I let her down, I had let go. ,” the abbot said. “But why are you still carrying her?”

How often we are this junior monk, who can't take things easy and letting it go. If we are holding a stone in our hand for awhile, it is light. But if we are holding it for 10 hours, it becomes heavy, a burden for us. In life, we are just like the junior monk who are always carrying a lady on our back or holding a stone in our hand. We can't take things easy and learn to let it go. Maybe in another point of view, we could be like the abbot, by letting the lady down, letting go. When all these while, we are just forgetting that we could also take it easy, let it go.

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Forgetting

Posted by iN tHe BlOg

As a human, we tend to forget. We might forget a person's name, the past, a familiar place etc. Forgetting is part of our lives. In the definition of forget, it is to lose (facts, knowledge, etc.) from the mind; fail to recall; be unable to remember; to fail to do, bring, etc. as because of carelessness; overlook, omit, or neglect unintentionally don't forget to write; to overlook, omit, or neglect intentionally. In life, it is common for a person to say " I forget about something." This something could be just an excuse, an unhappy event, don't remember to do or say, or even perhaps because of aging.

It is blessing that we can forget and it is also sad to say that we have this ability of forgetting. When we know this usefulness of the ability of forgetting, we can forgive a person. As there is always a saying, "Forgive and forget." Forgive other's mistake and forget what had done. It is a beautiful ability. In the function of the brain, when a person gone through a traumatize experience, a part of his brain will lock and forget about the 'experience'. Unless it was to be awake and recalled again. In a relationship if one party can forget other's fault, they would appreciate each other better. "Forget the past and let us move on together."

When forgetting becomes a serious problem, it is no longer a blessing. It becomes a part in the tip-of-the-tongue experience, when we're at a loss, usually with mouths gaping, for the right word or phrase, "I forget, I'm sorry". As we get older, our memory becomes harder to access and retrieve, and often telling the same stories. It is often easy to hear elders recalling things from the past and sometimes repeat questions that they would want to ask. Regular rehearsal or retrieval of memory is actually helping them to delay forgetting. As a result, memories can last for a lifetime with no appreciable loss of detail. In fact people are more likely to embellish a memory the more often they recall it.

We having this ability of forgetting, it is a blessing. A blessing that pieces of information, experiences that we gone through, we can choose to remember or forget. As we aged, this ability causing hindered, confused, loss. What happen when we don't have this ability and remember every single details that we gone through in our lives? Would our lives be better or would we be suffering? A lot of times, I prefer to forget than to remember. Remember the good and forget the bad.

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Turtle Adventure

Posted by iN tHe BlOg

Sunday as usual, is our family day. My father was thinking his mother in law (which is my grandmother) to Singapore Turtle Museum. Erm.. it didn't seem an interesting place to me. As the last time I remembered being to zoological garden was way back when I was in Primary school. Ever since then, I had never stepped into any places that has animals. Well, after he suggested, none of us had any objections at all.

We went there straight after lunch. Having this thought in mind, "what's there to see about turtles?' As we went in, there were thousands of turtle collectibles, from key chains to dolls to wind charms.. Staying in Singapore for so long, I don't even know there is this Live tortoise and Turtle Museum. As we went to area, we saw tanks, tanks where turtles were kept. Okay, it didn't really attracted me until one caught my attention. I saw this longest neck turtle. I was quite fascinated. I know that there were a lot of different species but all these while I thought that they all look alike. When I never have a chance to see it, I am thinking " Turtles are just turtles. What so fascinating about them?" I was wrong. None of it actually looked the same. The first turtles are believed to have existed in the early Triassic Period of the Mesozoic era, about 200 million years ago. Probably they are our ancestors.

The common ones that we often seen and kept as pet are terrapins. Apart from that, there are species like the most dangerous one known as Alligator Snapping Turtle which looks very much like a dinosaur to me. A pig nose turtle which it's nose looks like a pig. As we were about to explore even more, it started raining. Everything had to stop. We had only seen part of the Turtle Museum. It was so disheartening...

My grandmother could not stay too long as her legs hurt when she walked too much. We had to off a day after that. It was not so much of an adventure after all. Perhaps, it would if we stayed longer. Guess I need to go there again some other days and really take my time to be with turtles. After all, it is not so bad about viewing at turtles. They are rather cute, I would say. Unique and interesting creatures


Turtles (order Testudines). Click on an individual drawing to see a larger image.
A video clip on turtle museum: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MAeaSrc1bNg

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How you catch a cold

Posted by iN tHe BlOg

An upper respiratory infection, or cold, is an infection of the nose and throat. Learn how these infections occur and how they're spread.

What Is an Upper Respiratory Infection?
An upper respiratory infection is another way of saying that a person has a cold. A cold is a minor infection of the nose and throat.
Healthy Breathing

During normal breathing, air travels through the nose, down the trachea or windpipe, and into smaller and smaller airways. There are several mechanisms in place along the respiratory tract to prevent foreign particles and organisms from entering the nose and causing illness.

How Illness Affects the Respiratory Tract
One mechanism involves mucus, which coats the inside of the nose and traps unwanted germs that might enter the airways. Cilia are tiny hairs that also help protect the body from germs by pushing out harmful particles that become trapped in the mucous lining.

Catching a Cold
If harmful germs slip by these defense mechanisms and wind up further down in the respiratory tract, they may enter the alveoli. It is here that the white blood cells come into play as they fight the unwanted organisms. At this point the classic symptoms of a cold develop: inflammation, swelling and irritation of the mucous membranes, sneezing, and sore throat.

Spreading a Cold
Upper respiratory infections can be spread by direct contact, by exposure to airborne particles, or by touching contaminated surfaces and then by rubbing the nose or eyes.

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Battling with influenza

Posted by iN tHe BlOg

The two types of illness which I hate most is flu and cough. Living in an Asian country, being infected with the two types of illness are common. So long as anyone who is beside you who is suffering from a flu/cough and you are not strongly immune to it, the chances of getting infected is high. This is what I always say "sharing with others."

Like in the computer games I am playing, I am now battling with this influenza. Finding means of ways trying to get rid of it and win this game. The worst part is not getting it, but is the process of dealing with it. The symptoms are intolerable. I had been browsing through the website and searching what are the symptoms of the flu.

The flu generally lasts anywhere from 2-7 days, with 4-5 days being the most common. People with the flu usually run a fever, have aches and pains throughout their bodies, feel exhausted, congestion, experience severe headaches and may have cold symptoms. These symptoms come on more rapidly than they do with a cold. People with the flu are typically unable to perform daily activities due to the illness.

I am having almost all the symptoms, feeling sick and tired. Battling with this tiny virus is not easy and it just making me not having any mood in doing anything. And the best remedy is to drink plenty of water and sleep, plus not forgetting the flu medicine and consulting a doctor if there is a need to. Cause in a war game, you need to have reinforcement in order to win the battle.

The worse thing is I had to stay at home now as the flu is highly contagious. It is important to avoid other people until I am feeling better. Knowing this responsiblity "Please keep the germs to yourself."




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Do guys always give misleading signals?

Posted by iN tHe BlOg

Sometimes, I really wonder do guys always give misleading signals? Erm.. I don't really classify misleading signals as flirting. It is different. Flirting is a basic instinct, part of human nature. This is not surprising: if we did not initiate contact and express interest in members of the opposite sex, we would not progress to reproduction, and the human species would become extinct. When saying misleading signals, means that guys tends to do the 'wrong actions' toward girls and let the other party misunderstand that he likes her. And ofen we are the ones being said we are thinking too much.

In a lot of cases, when a guy is flirting, I think it is pretty straight forward. Like the blog I had read: "Signs of flirting."

  1. He stares at you a lot.
  2. He hits you a lot. (just play hitting)
  3. He uses the first thing that pops into his head to start a conversation with you
  4. He yelled, "Hi!", to your mom that day she picked you up from school.
  5. He blew off his buds to go see "Run Away Bride" with you cause you couldn't get another girl to go and didn't want to go alone
  6. He tries to make you laugh anyway even if he gets hurt in the process
  7. His voice gets softer ("Hey, you") when ever you two talk
  8. You hung up on him. He called you back
  9. You where invited by him to a group outing
  10. He called you to talk about nothing at all
  11. He imitates your laugh. OK, you do snort sometimes. Which makes you laugh even harder
  12. He remembers little things you mention in casual conversation
  13. He sometimes stares straight into your eyes
  14. He every possible way to touch you (your hair, face, ass, thighs, etc.)

But when I mean by saying 'misleading signals', i mean guys do actions that mislead us. A very good example: Mr nice guy who always nice to every lady in his office. He always talk gently to all the ladies. Even when having lunch with his female colleague, he will picks the food for her, offers to carry her handbag. Hey, that's a wrong signal, very wrong. It will mislead the lady that he likes her but the fact is not! He is just a gentleman, Mr Nice.

It is nothing wrong when a guy is nice. In this new century, obviously that guys should learn to be a gentleman. But there is a limit to 'gentle'. Cause when guys just give any misleading actions, the girls will wonder "does he likes me?" There few actions which I really feel that it is really misleading.. Guys, please take note:

  1. When you going out with a group of girls, please if you want to be a gentleman. Pay attention to all the girls in the group. Don't offer to carry one girl's bag but all. At least, we will that you are a gentleman, not fancy on one.
  2. Talk the same tone to every girl in the office. This is very important that the way you speak, it will give wrong impression of you like her when is not.
  3. Never send any misleading flirting messages to the girls. When messages like: I am all alone in the night. You are just like a star in the night. No matter how lonely I am, I know you are always by my side. If you don't mean it, don't send.
  4. The language of touch. A light touch on a girl's face, hand, etc is a kind of misleading signal.
  5. Humour is an essential element of flirtation but if you misuse it, it becomes misleading. Playful teasing allows the girl to increase the 'personal' content of the exchange and misunderstand that you like her.
  6. Never give those affectionate eye contact.
  7. No misleading words like "I love you", "I miss you", "Don't let me worry about you"...
  8. Never ask a girl out. If there is need to, tell her the reason so that she will not misunderstand.
  9. Always keep a distant posture between you and the girl. This is known as 'non-verbal leakage': sometimes your unintentional feelings 'leak out' in your posture may lead to misunderstanding. Leaning forward, and an 'open' posture are actually signs of attentiveness and interest or liking.
  10. Never but not least, never be a Mr Nice.

Of course, the list can just goes on. I really feel that guys should take note by not giving any misleading signals cause in the end, the guy might says "I am just being nice" leaving all the misleading signals letting us wondering "Does he like me?" And the conclusion is "He is just not that into you!"

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Do You Suffer From Hippopotomonstrosesqippedaliophobia?

Posted by iN tHe BlOg

Taken from:
Do You Suffer From Hippopotomonstrosesqippedaliophobia?

Written by marisuewrites
And Other Phenomenon - The Phobia Room
(double click on the title to view more of her works)

If you suffer from Hippopotomonstrosesqippedaliophobia, you can at least be glad you don't suffer from Hexakosioihexekontahexaphobia.

And, if both of those bother you, perhaps you can celebrate not worrying about Iatrophobia. Of the three, I suffer from the last. But, I'm a woman of few phobias, so one out of three "ain't" bad. I'm an optimist.

The first phobia, let's call it "hippo" for short, is the fear of long words, and if you're a frequent reader, you know I seldom use words with more than 3 syllables. I could, mind you. I'm just a lazy writer. If I have to look them up to spell them, I figure you might have to look them up to read them. That's too much trouble for both of us.
Be Afraid, Be Very Afraid

I AM, Said I

The second one, let's nickname it "Hexakosio" in keeping with the lazy theme, is the fear of the number 666. If the world situation gets any worse, I'm thinking that's the next phobia for me.
The third, we'll call "latro" for the same reasons already stated, is the fear of doctors and I'm full blown infected with that one.

At least I know I'm not alone in phobias if the nightly news is any indication of measurement. I think it's safe to say that our President suffers from Ideophobia- Fear of ideas, or at least good ones; and but there's good news on the horizon with this next phobia: I don't think Congress seems to have anything remotely close to Rupophobia- Fear of dirt.

Now, don't think bad of me, because I know she couldn't help it, but I saw a lady in the grocery store the other day, and I don't mean to be unkind, but afterwards I developed Genuphobia- the Fear of knees; I'm sure she couldn't help it, but then, neither could I.

My grandmother had Paraskavedekatriaphobia- Fear of Friday the 13th. but it didn't bother me until the movie came out. You've got to fear the person who thinks like that.

My husband suffers from Galeophobia - Fear of cats, or it could just be hatred of cats; our dog refuses to pee in the dark, so he must suffer from Scotophobia- Fear of darkness, but maybe that's self-preservation.

Many of us probably should have had this in our youth, Sexophobia- Fear of the opposite sex; we might have been better off. I had many kids in my home who suffered from Stasibasiphobia or Stasiphobia- Fear of standing or walking, or maybe they were just downright lazy.

And, do the holidays give you Syngenesophobia- Fear of relatives? If not, you should come to my house, I'll share the joy.

Here's one for the books, and as close to fear of success as I could get, doxophobia, the fear of praise. No chance of me coming down with that one. I'm pretty comfortable with praise, bring it on! I'll risk it.

I never thought I'd come down with this one, Pedophobia- Fear of children, but after 250 foster kids, I think I'm entitled.

I don't know about you, but if my life is any example, I think without even knowing it I've had, for a number of years: Plutophobia- Fear of wealth. I didn't know it was a disease. I thought it was high prices and taxes or something.

Now, we could just end it all by realizing that we all have Polyphobia- Fear of many things, but, wait, there's more.
I plan on keeping this one in my pocket at all times: Pocrescophobia- Fear of gaining weight.

After November, we'll all come down with Politicophobia- Fear or abnormal dislike of politicians, if we haven't already. I'm working on it.

I thought this was particularly curious, but if they're coming toward you with anything weird in their hand, I could develop this one real quick: Proctophobia- Fear of rectums; it's right up there (or down, depending on your view) with Iatrophobia. Don't touch me, doc.

Most of us wouldn't have any danger of coming down with Pteronophobia - Fear of being tickled by feathers; unless you're the chicken who's about to lose theirs.

I don't know why, but last week I suffered from Graphophobia- Fear of writing, and this hub is the result of that, so now we all suffer from my graphophobia, may THAT never happen again.

My all time favorite, which we will all come down with after reading this hub, is Phobophobia- Fear of phobias.

Gee, I was feeling fine until I wrote all this; I think I'm coming down with something, could you please pass the valium?

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Blend

Posted by iN tHe BlOg


What is blend? It is a mixture, becoming one. In real life, how are we going to apply this "Theory of Blend"? It is just like you have good EQ. You know how to mix around with any people. It can be very simple. Like in the office, if you are able to blend well with all your colleagues, everyone will find you easy to get along with. Even your boss might impresses your work and promotes you. But not everyone knows how to apply this "Theory of Blend".


Anywhere and everywhere, we tend to meet new people and even old friends. Most of the time, we are always blending within the group. I am not the type of knowing how to blend. Or rather I say I force myself to blend. In an office, school, or even friends, it is just like a community. There are a a lot of different characters of people. None are the same. Knowing this "Theory of Blend", it is able to bring more friends to you, more opportunities to you.


The mistake I had made, I forced myself to blend. When I didn't know how to stay together with a tiger, I changed myself to be one. In the end, what happened? I ended up, getting scratches and wounds all over. It was painful. Even I can change to be one, but I will never be one. Why? Cause I am just not a tiger. I thought that if I can be like a tiger, maybe things will be better. The fact is, it is not! I can lie to everyone but myself. Deep inside my heart, I know I am never one of them.


I am too used to asking questions like: How people looked at me? How I can blend in well together with everyone? When everyone is the same, why can't I? The answer is I am too concern the way people look at me. If this theory doesn't apply to me, I should be myself. There is a Chinese saying "What overcome changes is don't change." When you don't change, people will understand and accept who you are and what you are.


Mistakes make people grown up. Maybe this theory can be useful to some people. Just like coffee, if you add milk and sugar, it will changes its colour. It blends. And milk, sugar and coffee live happily ever after. What if hydrogen and oxygen can't mixed together to be water, just stay as it is. There are always ways that every single elements on earth have their own style of living besides this "Theory of Blend"

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