- He stares at you a lot.
- He hits you a lot. (just play hitting)
- He uses the first thing that pops into his head to start a conversation with you
- He yelled, "Hi!", to your mom that day she picked you up from school.
- He blew off his buds to go see "Run Away Bride" with you cause you couldn't get another girl to go and didn't want to go alone
- He tries to make you laugh anyway even if he gets hurt in the process
- His voice gets softer ("Hey, you") when ever you two talk
- You hung up on him. He called you back
- You where invited by him to a group outing
- He called you to talk about nothing at all
- He imitates your laugh. OK, you do snort sometimes. Which makes you laugh even harder
- He remembers little things you mention in casual conversation
- He sometimes stares straight into your eyes
- He every possible way to touch you (your hair, face, ass, thighs, etc.)
But when I mean by saying 'misleading signals', i mean guys do actions that mislead us. A very good example: Mr nice guy who always nice to every lady in his office. He always talk gently to all the ladies. Even when having lunch with his female colleague, he will picks the food for her, offers to carry her handbag. Hey, that's a wrong signal, very wrong. It will mislead the lady that he likes her but the fact is not! He is just a gentleman, Mr Nice.
It is nothing wrong when a guy is nice. In this new century, obviously that guys should learn to be a gentleman. But there is a limit to 'gentle'. Cause when guys just give any misleading actions, the girls will wonder "does he likes me?" There few actions which I really feel that it is really misleading.. Guys, please take note:
- When you going out with a group of girls, please if you want to be a gentleman. Pay attention to all the girls in the group. Don't offer to carry one girl's bag but all. At least, we will that you are a gentleman, not fancy on one.
- Talk the same tone to every girl in the office. This is very important that the way you speak, it will give wrong impression of you like her when is not.
- Never send any misleading flirting messages to the girls. When messages like: I am all alone in the night. You are just like a star in the night. No matter how lonely I am, I know you are always by my side. If you don't mean it, don't send.
- The language of touch. A light touch on a girl's face, hand, etc is a kind of misleading signal.
- Humour is an essential element of flirtation but if you misuse it, it becomes misleading. Playful teasing allows the girl to increase the 'personal' content of the exchange and misunderstand that you like her.
- Never give those affectionate eye contact.
- No misleading words like "I love you", "I miss you", "Don't let me worry about you"...
- Never ask a girl out. If there is need to, tell her the reason so that she will not misunderstand.
- Always keep a distant posture between you and the girl. This is known as 'non-verbal leakage': sometimes your unintentional feelings 'leak out' in your posture may lead to misunderstanding. Leaning forward, and an 'open' posture are actually signs of attentiveness and interest or liking.
- Never but not least, never be a Mr Nice.
Of course, the list can just goes on. I really feel that guys should take note by not giving any misleading signals cause in the end, the guy might says "I am just being nice" leaving all the misleading signals letting us wondering "Does he like me?" And the conclusion is "He is just not that into you!"