I went to search on this 90/10 principle after hearing this on air. As I posted earlier on, it was written by the author Stephen Covey. Interesting. I absolutely agree that this principle can change our life.

It is very true that 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. We often blame things on others when it happened and most of the words that came out from our mouth were hurting. The fact is when things happened, it is unavoidable, it is not reversible and start all over again. That is why 10% is what we can not control and other 90% is what we can do to change it by controlling our reaction.

This imply that how calm you are and how well you can cope in a crisis. When a person is calm, he/she can think clearly and reacts according to the situation and solve the problem. Whether in a relationship, friendship, working environment, you can improve your situation and change it. A lot of times, we blamed a person when incident happened. We blamed everyone except ourselves. When manager or superior scolded us, we would find reasons or excuses to say "hey, is not my fault!/you did not tell me what to do!" This is how we make things worse. If we will to able to say "I'm sorry. I overlook this problem. I will not make the mistake again." Well, we might be still hearing some angry words flying in the air but at least it will a bad impression of each party, reprimanding. Same apply to couple as well. When a couple quarrel, hurting words then to come out. In the end, it might end up a divorce.

Of course, it is easy to say than done. And most of them when we are angry, we forget the principle, we forget forgiving, we forget everything. Maybe we should be more relax, don't bother sometimes and have a 'don't worry, be happy' attitude. Anyway, it happened, so? Why punish others for the mistake make? Late for work, never mind. Broke a glass, buy a new one. When in a fight, be quiet and listen. In the end, situation will not be that worse as what we think. Anyway we have nothing to lose cause what had happened, had happened.